Monthly Archives: October 2011

Male and Female: Sex, Flesh, and Rib-Bones

 Here is a guest post from our youth pastor Rev. Brad Acton: 

If you’ve spent any time in the church you’ve read the Creation story. It’s dangerously over-familiar so that when we re-read it, we gloss over it or skim. We know how it goes. We know the idea. I’m guilty when it comes to the speedy read through, but tonight at our church small group we found deep truths hidden behind the common words.

Our group is currently working through a curriculum about marriage, and this week focused on the story in Genesis 2:18-24, the creation of Ishah (Heb. – Woman) from Ish (Man). This story is the first account of God naming Creation as being “not good.” God creates all the firmament of heaven, the earth has exploded with life, and the Man has just been sculpted from dust and taken on the very Breath or Spirit of God. But not long after we read: “Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that the man should be alone.'”The following scene tells of Adam naming every creature upon the earth before falling into a deep sleep in his loneliness, unable to find a creature that corresponds to his nature. Yet as he sleeps, God fashions a woman from his rib, taking her from his flesh. And when he wakes, the Hebrew literally reads, “This time, she-is-it! Bone from my bones, flesh from my flesh!”

To understand Creation is to probe the mystery of God’s nature. To know the Creation is to know the Creator in some ways. What then can be said that God makes us in need of community? To be alone is not good, so God fashions us within us the desire for the other, the one taken from our flesh or the one from whom we have been taken. The Woman is the only being not fashioned from the earth in the Creation story; instead she is taken from the nature of man. And in that occurrence the nature of humankind develops more fully than before.

When we asked why God would make us with these intense desires for relationship and the need to love and be loved, one of the women in our group said that is the nature of the Trinity. To discover love is to know love with another and the other’s love for ourselves. That is why it was “not good” for Adam to be alone; not just because he was lonely. That simply follows from what was already lacking. No, the fact that Creation did not adequately express the mind of God was “not good.” Marriage then functions as the sign or sacrament of this grace in the world by joining the two natures to one another as a step towards seeing deeper into the mind of God.

In my own marriage, what I thought was love and the pursuit of mutual felicity changed incredibly when my marriage began to change ME. Our culture only speaks of marriage as one person’s individual, independent self being joined to another independent self, and only as long as neither impedes the freedom of the other the marriage is successful. What a horrible view of this gift.

Marriage does not say, ‘come as you are and stay that way forever.’ Marriage bids you come and love. It is not simply getting your needs met by another, it is the pouring out of our lives to one another while receiving the gift the spouse offers us. And it is worth it because God has fashioned us to ‘hold fast’ to one another.

The pain and joy and turbulence of this life has required me and my wife to hold fast to one another at times. And I think it may be the mystery of such unconditional love, a love not meant for just happy times but a love meant for the deepest horrors of this life that lets us know Christ’s love for his Church. I don’t know where I’d be without my wife. It’s not always easy, but in the wonder of marriage I have found peace in her gifts to me. And when life and (sometimes) death make it almost impossible to keep going, I know she is my bride, the flesh from my flesh, and that gives me great joy.

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An Update on Patrick Kelley

Round Three

Time flies when chemo is behind the wheel! Patrick finished his third chemo round on Tuesday of this week. We now have two weeks of potential ups and downs [read: fatigue, neutropenia (where his immune system is compromised, and he can easily catch all sorts of bugs), fatigue, digestion issues, some nausea, daily injections, have I mentioned fatigue??] before he begins again on November 11th. For anyone out there who may imagine that chemo is a walk in the park, show me the soft, freshly cut grass of Park Chemo. Seriously. Our two weeks “off” after our one week “on” (with chemo treatments) are filled with daily visits to NIH for blood-work, scans, or appointments at other physicians’ offices. He’s unable to drive for at least 6 months (due to the seizures he had following his brain biopsy), so we are “enjoying” quality, 24/7-togetherness time, as Ceci and I shuttle him around town.  After spending most of my days in the car circling the beltway, fanagling Ceci through NIH security, and handling her oh-so-pleasant 2 year old moments, I’m exhausted by 4pm, and still have to stare down bath time, bedtime and our own dinner time. (Let’s just say 4pm has now been dubbed “Julie’s Vodka Tonic Break”).Overall, Patrick continues to handle the treatment remarkably well. He’s much better at self-care than I am, so he embraces the frequent urge to nap or drink green tea whenever his body beckons. We continue to rejoice (with you!) over the good news of his recent scans. His doctors have decided to proceed with the remaining chemo cycles, in order to ensure that they get every last lingering cancer cell. So, he should have 3 more 3-week rounds following our current cycle. I believe we are slated to be through with this sometime in early January. (Happy New Year to us!) NIH will run scans throughout to check on the tumor’s progress, but his doctors remain cautiously hopeful that the little bugger is gone. We feel very relieved that his tumor responded so quickly to the protocol, and thankful that radiation is mostly likely off the table.His primary oncologist, Dr. Wilson, is adding some additional drugs to the protocol, in order to specifically cater the treatment to Patrick’s unusual CNS Lymphoma. Besides adding a few new chemo meds to the ongoing “cocktails” (a cheeky name for something so toxic, eh?), he’s added (rather ground-breaking) modulators, which are supposed to further breakdown the cancer cells so that they will better respond to the chemo. One of these drugs was used in the 40s or 50s to help pregnant women deal with their morning sickness, I believe. Apparently, it produced scores of disfigured children, and was then quickly taken off of the market. It is only just now being reintroduced alongside chemo treatments. The potential of severe birth defects remains, so Patrick has to sign a pile of papers each week, acknowledging that we understand the dangerous side-effects, and commit to actively using birth control. Before we were visited by the friendly Cancer Committee, we were hoping to get pregnant, and grow our little family. Baby #2 has now been put on the backburner, (as have many of our former dreams and plans) so that we can focus solely on Patrick’s health. This is (understandably) hard for me/us, and yet I continue to trust that God has a good plan for us through and after all of this.

Just as the leaves change outside of our windows, I am reminded that life is made up of changing seasons, where the death of something leads to the new life of something else. We die to dreams and expectations of success, and await the rebirth of new, good (hopefully better) things.  In the midst of our challenges, Ceci is growing up and blossoming before our eyes. She’s (SO!) tall now, and full of words, expressions, new realizations and emotions. Some of these are annoying/exhausting. Most of them are delightful. As a newly-minted two year old, she’s able to tell you that “we take Dada to the ho(s)pital to get some hair”. I know, it’s not the greatest teaching moment of my life, but it’s too funny to correct at this point. (If she’s afraid of receiving medical care in the future, for fear of losing her hair, you know who to blame….) If she believes that dinner isn’t made, but rather appears magically on one’s front doorstep, we have many of you to blame! I haven’t cooked a meal in two months, and somehow our fridge remains stocked full of meals ready to be enjoyed. I owe hundreds of thank-you notes, but want to (for now) say THANK YOU here to all of you who’ve driven 30 minutes out of DC to feed us. THANK YOU to those who have generously donated to Take-Out Taxi so that our cravings for Indian and Thai deliciousness can be fulfilled at the last minute. THANK YOU to those who have mailed us restaurant or grocery store gift cards. THANK YOU to those who have offered/provided us play-dates, “mansits” and rides to NIH.  I really hope that someday I can give back to each of you with at least a measure of the kindness you have shown us. We are daily amazed at and grateful for your prayers, love and generosity for us in this time. We are blessed beyond measure to have you in our life, and thank God for your abiding friendship and love.

Well, Patrick and Ceci just stepped outside to go on a “bear hunt” of sorts. (They’re guaranteed to find some deer in the gorgeous woods of Great Falls, but hopefully we’ll be spared a trip to the ER, due to nasty bear claw encounters.) I suppose it’s time for me to make dinner. Oh wait, it’s already made. (Thanks to one of you.)

Well, then, bonsoir, for now.

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The story of how God planted three churches in nine years

Ripple Effect

By: Katie Boone

This is the story of how God planted three churches in nine years.
In 2001, Church of the Apostles in Raleigh, North Carolina had its first services. People came from throughout the Triangle; David and Martha Hyman were among the first.

A year later David and his family moved to Vancouver, BC so he could attend seminary at Regent College. In 2005, Church of the Apostles planted All Saints Anglican Church in neighboring Durham and Chapel Hill. About this time David and his family returned to North Carolina and he joined All Saints as Associate Rector.

They settled in Chatham County, forty minutes west of Durham. In search of community, they began a small group with a couple they had first met at Church of the Apostles. The small group was for people who attended All Saints, but lived in the area. They had four families.

“The most amazing thing about our story and even the most encouraging thing that people should be aware of is that this started not out of a strategy to plant a church, but out of a small group,” Hyman says.

The Story We’ve Found Ourselves In

Chatham County is not the ideal place to plant a church. Hyman describes it, lovingly, as odd. It is off the beaten path. Few people pass through. It is an important agricultural resource for North Carolina and populated with family farms. There is a remnant of artists and writers. The best grocery store is a co-op located in a renovated mill. It is weathered, quiet, and exceedingly local.

Hyman says, “If I saw this on paper this is not something I would jump on. This is a smaller place with older character, but this is the story we’ve found ourselves in.”

In 2009, Hyman’s small group began to ask questions about what God was doing right there in their place. With All Saints rector, Rev. Steve Breedlove, they spent three months in prayerful discernment. Each member prayed when he or she was out in the community, but they did not discuss it. After three months everyone finally shared what God had shown him or her and the consensus was to plant.

Three Fold Blessing

“It is a tremendous honor and privilege to see God extending the call to plant churches through this second generation,” Rev. Patrick Dominguez, rector of Church of the Apostles, says, “We are thrilled to see His Kingdom growing and to have a very small hand in it.”

When Hyman approached the Vestry at All Saints in the fall of 2010 the church was only four years old. They had just secured a permanent worship space, launched a second service, and in four years grown from 50 to 250 weekly attendance. There was excitement, but they were still a plant themselves. There were no plans to plant until 2018.

“The vestry had to be really discerning and have wisdom, but you have to set measurable goals out there rather than just saying yes because you want to,” Hyman explains.

Criteria for a church plant were established. If the benchmarks were met then it would be obvious God was doing something in Chatham County and All Saints would have to follow that lead. By January, 2010, Holy Trinity Chatham held its first service and in the summer met monthly over a bar. By this September, they began weekly services and what was a small group of four families a year prior tripled within months.

But the blessing is not just for Holy Trinity Chatham.

“As the sending church, this has inspired and motivated us to think outside of ourselves,” Rev. Steve Breedlove says, “we have given away people, money, and possessions to spread the Gospel further than our reach, and this process has enabled us to really do what we say that we’re about. Since the Sunday we fully released the Holy Trinity people to stop coming to All Saints, our church has added three times as many people as we sent. Every key ministry position that was vacated has been filled twice over with new people who desire to serve.”

Local Expression of Something Larger

Place is central to the vision for Holy Trinity.

“Our vision for this has always been a parish church,” Hyman says, “This is a clear distinction from a lot of church plants. In our context it makes sense here. We’re not a regional church where people will drive from all over to go to church here. In a certain sense we are limiting ourselves. But that is okay. We’re putting roots down and committing to this one place.”

Holy Trinity’s commitment to place manifests itself in different ways. They share space with a United Methodist congregation who were about to lose their building. Hyman describes the relationship as collaborative; they are pooling resources to open a food pantry. He says they are not competitive, but are pulling for each other to succeed for the sake of the kingdom.

They also seek to participate in the things that make Chatham County distinct. The church reserved a booth for an upcoming local street fair. There will be information about the church, Hyman says, but the main intention is to participate in the beauty and display the work of artists in the church.

And they have been intentional about what God is doing in the community. As a church they are asking God for the one issue, if addressed well, would make a real difference for the marginalized and oppressed in Chatham County. Hyman sees the work they do as a local expression of something much bigger because they are a church planted by a church.

“It was huge for All Saints to recognize and bless what God was doing here in Chatham County. They held us accountable and acted as the voice of authority on behalf of the larger church,” Hyman says, “This isn’t about a church planter going off and doing his own thing. This is the ripple effect.”

All pictures were taken by Martha Manning and used with permission. 

This article appears on the Anglican 1000 website.

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Facebook Makes Us Miserable by Tim Challies

Facebook Makes Us Miserable

  • Tim Challies
  • 03/14/11


Just about everyone has joined Facebook. And just about everyone has since considered giving it up. There are all kinds of studies today telling us how much time Facebook is sucking—700 billion minutesbetween the lot of us every month. That’s a lot of time. But when you divide it 500 million ways it doesn’t seem quite so bad. That’s not why most of us have considered giving it up. There are studies telling us how Facebook is invading our privacy and selling our personal details to advertisers. That’s annoying, but not reason enough to quit.

The reason so many of us have considered giving up on Facebook is that it makes us miserable. A recent paper in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin looks at a series of studies involving how people evaluate moods—their own and those of others. The study itself is not as interesting as the implications. What the study found is that people tend to underestimate how dejected other people feel and that this in turn increases a person’s own sense of unhappiness. Put otherwise, we all believe that others have better lives than we do and this makes us feel bad about ourselves. That’s strangely significant.

Where do we find this phenomenon in clearest form? On Facebook, of course. We log on to Facebook, look through the photographs and status messages our friends post, and believe that everyone is happier and more successful than we are. And when I have spoken to friends and family members who have considered giving up Facebook, this is exactly the reasoning they have given. They look at other people and feel miserable in comparison.

What an interesting phenomenon. It seems clear that Facebook is exposing something, some ugly little corner of the human heart. Facebook is all about making life seem joyful—we “like” one another’s happy status updates, not the sad ones; we post photos of our parties, not our funerals; we use it to celebrate births and marriages and new relationships, not to mourn deaths or remember break-ups. Facebook is meant to be a happy place for happy people. But it doesn’t seem to work out so well. We all think everyone else is happy, but we don’t feel the joy.

And it strikes both ways—when we portray ourselves through social media we do so on our own terms. And of course this means that we present ourselves in the way we want to be perceived, whether or not this is an accurate portrayal. So even while we put only our best foot forward, we look at others and assume that their portrayal is more accurate than our own; we believe that we are the only pretenders, the only ones stretching and exaggerating, trying to keep up. We resent another person for being happy—“She has an amazing life and I don’t!” Or we resent her for being falsely happy—“I know her and I know that her life isn’t all that!”

Either way, we all end up miserable. We all end up trying to be something we are not and believing that everyone else has a better life. Libby Copeland spoketo the author of this paper and he quoted Montesquieu saying: “If we only wanted to be happy it would be easy; but we want to be happier than other people, which is almost always difficult, since we think them happier than they are.” We do not want to be happy—we want to be happier. It becomes a competition, a point of comparison. But we can never be happier because we constantly drag ourselves down by believing that we are the only ones who are miserable.

What a ridiculous lot we are. What a sad, jealous, envious, idolatrous lot.

Facebook makes me believe, even stronger, in the value of the local church, in the value of true, deep fellowship, or genuine community. This is just one more reason that we need to live in community—in real community with real people. When I mediate my life by Facebook, I am the one who controls it all. I curate it by tagging the photos I like, by offering up the statuses I like, by making myself who I want to be rather than who I am. But when I live before others, when I live a real life in the real world, well, that is where people see who I really am. And they love me on that basis. In fact, they love me more on that basis.

The fact is, we want to love real people and we want to be loved by real people. Facebook is fiction. Local church is fact—the most real community we can experience this side of eternity.

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What is the Relationship Between Social Justice and Kingdom Work?

Social justice apart from the church not ‘kingdom work,’ author says 
By Terry Goodrich
Thursday, October 20, 2011 
WACO, Texas (ABP) — A rising generation of Christians intent on working for social justice must not confuse that effort with “kingdom work,” award-winning Christian author Scot McKnight said during the Parchman Endowed Lectures series at Baylor University’s Truett Theological Seminary.”In our country, the younger generation is becoming obsessed with social justice,” including through government opportunities, politics and voting, said McKnight, author of The Jesus Creed:Loving God, Loving Others.“What it’s doing is leading young Christians out of the church and into the public sector to do what they call ‘kingdom work.’

“I want to raise a red flag here: There is no such thing as kingdom work outside the church — and I don’t mean the building. The kingdom is about King Jesus and King Jesus’ people and King Jesus’ ethics for King Jesus’ people.

“Social justice outside the church is not biblical justice or kingdom work. It is social work. Fine, that’s a good thing. But let’s not call this kingdom work.”

Instead, he called on listeners to make the church “a beachhead of justice and peace and love” for those in need in the church. Then, “let that kind of church and kingdom and justice work spill over into the walls of your community.”

Churches have lost sight in other ways of their mission of spreading the gospel of God’s atoning work through Jesus, said McKnight, the Karl A. Olsson professor in religious studies at Chicago’s North Park University.

“We like our music and our drama groups. We’re now more and more driven to act justly in social ways by engagement with the poor and despised, and we’re hoping that in doing this, our little lights will shine,” McKnight said, referring to the lyrics of a children’s gospel song.

Churches have shaped themselves using entertainment and business models — even down to satisfaction surveys, he said.

But “when will we ever learn as churches and as pastor/teachers that all we have to offer, all we have to tell people about, and all we have to show people is Jesus?” he asked.

Among the primary instruments for doing that are preaching and teaching the gospel, baptism, the Lord’s Supper and Spirit-shaped fellowship, he said.

Through baptism — with its embodiment of the death and resurrection — and the partaking of the Lord’s Supper, “the gospel is shown in a way that words cannot interpret,” he said.

McKnight recalled that in his youth, Communion often was observed quickly at sermon’s end — before roasts simmering at home for Sunday lunch would dry out. He remembered one church even set up a stand where Communion elements could be picked up by departing members.

He recalled thinking: “Yikes almighty. Drive-away Eucharist.”

“There’s no reason to rush the Lord’s Supper, because it’s the gospel,” McKnight said. “There’s no reason to tack it on to a sermon. There are good reasons to let the Eucharist be a sermon.”

Terry Goodrich writes for Baylor University.

Commentary from Scot McKnight written on his blog: I’m all for “social” justice. I’m fighting the trend I see today of equating “kingdom work” with public sector social justice work. As if “kingdom” is something done outside the church. As I read the Gospels, Jesus’ uses “kingdom” for himself/God as King, for his followers who enter into his kingdom vision, and for the ecclesial/social conditions created by those who follow Jesus and his kingdom vision. So, there is no such thing as “kingdom” outside those who follow Jesus. Yes, by all means, kingdom people extend kingdom into other areas but only so far as they are embodying Jesus’ kingdom vision.

Those on the right side of the theological spectrum may think I’m an ally of theirs on this point; not so. I want the church to be a kingdom embodiment and I’m not criticizing social work at all; I’m pushing back against the left-wing mistaken notion that kingdom is what happens outside the church, that kingdom is something bigger (and therefore other) than church, etc.. My view is traditionally anabaptist on this one. The local church is called to be am embodiment of kingdom realities. But kingdom realities only applies those ecclesial actions.

To listen, watch or download Scot McKights lectures at Baylor’s Truett Theological Seminary click HERE

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Samaritan Health Center is hiring!

Local Mission Partner Employment Opportunity: Samaritan Health Center is hiring!  We are a faith-based free clinic opening an exciting second location near the All Saints and the Oak Creek Village Apartments.  We seek to fill three new part-time positions: physician or nurse practitioner, nurse and front desk staff member. Come grow with us. Spanish proficiency strongly preferred.  Please email for detailed job descriptions.
 The Samaritan Heath Clinic is opening up a free health clinic on Garrett Road and they are seeking to expand their team. To learn more about this local mission partner visit their website.

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An invitation to Get Connected with All Saints Women’s Ministry

All Saints Church Women’s Retreat – Feb 3-5

Published author and popular retreat speaker (and the wife of our Rector), Sally Breedlove, will be leading the retreat at St. Francis Springs Prayer Center located in Stoneville, NC. The theme of the weekend will be: “Find your Story, Find your Way.”  Please contact MaryLois Partridge ( for more information and Lynn Hand ( to register.

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Women’s Evening Bible Study meets every other Monday at the church from 7-8:30 p.m. Final meeting of the season is December 12. Contact Sarah Council at for more information.

Women’s Morning Bible Study

Women’s Morning Bible Study meets every Tuesday morning from 9:30-11 a.m. Childcare is provided. Final meeting of the season is December 13. Contact for more information.

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